Frank Reedstream
Come Again and Again: Male Multi-orgasmic Masturbation
Chapter One: Basic principles
Do you want to learn how to masturbate in such a way that you can have as many orgasms per day as you could possibly want? What is more, do you want to learn how to masturbate to a state of blissful pleasure that is far more lasting and intense than anything you have experienced masturbating the ordinary way?
Perhaps this idea of masturbating to multiple daily orgasms is not news to you. Perhaps you have never heard of it. Perhaps you have tried other programs, books, teachers, but have failed at mastering multi-orgasmic masturbation. Whichever way, no one will blame you if you are a bit skeptical. But hopefully you are at least a bit curious to find out if such an extraordinary thing is possible, and if it can be made possible for you, and how.
I have learnt to masturbate in such a way that I orgasm many times per day, and I would like to share my knowledge with you. You can imagine that something like this can turn your life around, and believe me in my case it has. I have found this masturbation technique to be a powerful instrument that has had a profound effect on my view of pleasure, sex, happiness and life itself. Trust me, if you manage to get it right, you will change profoundly. Speaking for myself, it has taught me to take pleasure from life to an extent that I have never imagined, let alone been able to achieve before. Whilst I am not saying that multi-orgasmic masturbation is the answer to the meaning of life, this I am prepared to say: If you learn to master the mindset and mental skills that are necessary to achieve multi-orgasmic masturbation, you will learn not only how to have multiple orgasms and experience unparalleled pleasure. You will grow as a person.
Like most of us, you want to be happy. Pleasure is not happiness. But if you learn to cultivate the mindset of happiness that I hope to help you to learn, one of the hugely valuable spinoffs will be pleasure such as you have not known. You want to learn to be happy first. I hope to contribute to developing that mindset in you, which will have the benefit, amongst others, of giving you massive pleasure.
I know this sounds like motivation-speaker gobbledygook. But stick around, and it will make sense. You won’t regret it.
What this book will teach you, is not unique. There are a number of gurus, internet programs, courses and seminars that say that they can teach men how to have multiple orgasms, or whole-body orgasms, tantric sex or orgasms without ejaculation. I have researched the topic for years, and, frankly, I do not pretend to understand the theory behind the practice of multi-orgasmic sex. I do not hold myself out as a theoretical expert. But what I do know is what works for me from a practical point of view. I have tried to distill my practical experience in this very hands-on guide (pun intended!) that skips the mysticism and theory surrounding this topic, and simply conveys to you how to do it practically: what you should do to make it work, and how you are likely to feel when it does.
First, let me explain the concept of multi-orgasmic masturbation as I understand it. Most men who masturbate do so until they ejaculate. At the same time they also have an orgasm. But it is possible to have an orgasm without ejaculating. Although all sex takes energy, nothing about sex makes you as tired as does an ejaculation. Most men – certainly I do – lose all interest in sex and cannot have an orgasm for quite a while after ejaculating. The secret of multi-orgasmic masturbation is to have orgasms without ejaculating. That way you can have as many orgasms as you want.
I frequently have more than twenty orgasms a day. You do not have to believe me. But I ask you to give what I say a chance.
I suppose one might respond to my claim by saying that it all depends on what I mean by the term “orgasm”. I define an orgasm as a pleasurable sexual climax and release or satisfaction. We all know what we mean by the term, and many other definitions exist, but this is what I mean by the term orgasm.
Let’s break down my definition into its constituent parts to understand what we mean:
The first, and perhaps by now obvious, point is what the definition does not contain: an orgasm is not defined by an ejaculation. Women do not ejaculate when they have orgasms (at least not the majority of them, but that is a topic for a different day). You too, can have an orgasm without ejaculating.
An orgasm is pleasurable, and so is an orgasm that is not accompanied by an ejaculation. My own experience is that it is more pleasurable – to the point of bliss - and it usually lasts longer. Although the length of the orgasm varies, it is invariably longer than the five or six seconds of an ejaculatory orgasm.
Whilst this kind of orgasm is undoubtedly sexual, it is not purely genital. My experience is that the pleasure typically radiates out in waves from the genital area and into the rest of the body and the brain. Typically your whole body will tingle, your skin will have goose bumps all over, and your mind will experience a sense of intense euphoria.
As in the case of an ejaculatory orgasm, you will find that the level of your pleasure grows as you are stroking yourself, until it reaches a high point, or climax. The climax lasts longer than with an ejaculatory orgasm in most cases, and I typically experience it as waves of pleasure that move through my body in rhythm with my breathing. If you wish to think of a climax as a mountaintop, this kind of orgasm is like a hilly plateau on the summit.
After the climax there is a definite release of tension or satisfaction. Now we all know that feeling of release or satisfaction when we ejaculate. Women also know it, although they normally do not ejaculate. Many men masturbate because they need that sense of release of tension, and in particular sexual tension. This is equally true of an orgasm with or without ejaculation.
Perhaps the most striking feature of a non-ejaculatory orgasm – what distinguishes it in fact - is that as soon as it is over, you can start masturbating again, and reach another orgasm within minutes. You will probably also find that the next orgasm will be more intense and pleasurable than the previous, and the one after that even more so. Not only that, but you will also find that the interval between orgasms becomes shorter. In other words, you will come more quickly every time. This often reaches a point where you will reach an orgasm within seconds of the previous one, and it becomes difficult to distinguish one from the other.
It is possible for you to orgasm without ejaculating. That will make it possible to have multiple orgasms throughout the day.
Chapter Two: How I learnt to masturbate to ejaculation - properly
In order to understand how to masturbate in a multi-orgasmic way, I think it is important first to learn how to masturbate properly to ejaculation. I think that one reason most men battle to have multi-orgasmic sex is because they have not learnt how properly to masturbate to ejaculation the right way. I know this perhaps sounds like a contradiction: what is the point of learning how to masturbate to ejaculation, only in order to “unlearn” ejaculation?
Trust me, it does make sense. It is like a baby who wants to learn to walk before it can crawl. It is perhaps possible, but extremely difficult.
There are a number of techniques and skills that you have to master in order to become multi-orgasmic, other than merely preventing ejaculation. Those techniques are all part of ordinary ejaculatory masturbation, or should be if it is practiced properly. Those skills must be learnt first, in my experience.
Before you can learn multi-orgasmic masturbation, you must learn “ordinary” masturbation with ejaculation.
As a younger man I masturbated in the same way that I used to as a child: I took my erect penis in my right hand and, starting slowly, gradually built up the pace, moving my hand faster and faster all the time, usually while fantasizing, until I orgasmed. Many times this produced a good, satisfying orgasm, especially when my sex drive was high. But at other times I found that it frustrated me, and that I felt as if I had not enjoyed complete release or satisfaction, or did not ejaculate completely.
This carried on for years, until I once saw a rental movie with the title of Bliss. It was a fictional account of a man and a woman who separately visited the same sex therapist. The story is told from the perspective of the young man, who is then introduced by the therapist to some of the principles of tantric sex. One of the exercises given to him was to masturbate for as long as he could without ejaculating. He was taught that the purpose of the exercise was simply to enjoy the activity of masturbation, rather than reaching orgasm as fast as possible.
I then decided that I was going to follow the advice of that therapist, and started experimenting with tantric masturbation. Later on – at a different stage of development – I also bought a course from the internet and followed its detailed instructions on a similar style of sex.
Let me say first of all that the initial two periods in my life that I engaged in masturbation which to the best of my ability followed the precepts of the tantric teachings that I had encountered in the movie and read in my internet course, produced some of the most exciting sexual experiences of my life. The theory of tantric sex is that by practicing it, a man’s sexual energy is not released through ejaculation, but is preserved in the body. This leads to a heightened sense of energy and excitement, which continues well into the rest of the day. Because one does not ejaculate, you are ready for sex during any time of the day or night. And of course, if you master the techniques that enable you not to ejaculate, the level of pleasure builds up over time, leading to increased levels of ecstasy all the time.
The problem is that because I did not orgasm, I had huge buildup of sexual energy, but no release. I soon found that, after about two or three days of masturbating this way, I became irritable. I battled to sleep, as my body was always in a heightened state of sexual arousal. That it turn led to increased blood pressure and headaches.
I sensed that the fact that I responded in this way, meant that I was probably doing something wrong. The theory is that one eventually enjoys orgasms without ejaculation. Now whereas occasionally I did enjoy rather enjoyable contractions of my penis and pelvic area, accompanied by copious releases of lubricant (“pre-cum”), I would hesitate to say that I achieved the type of orgasm described in the literature, namely where a man has orgasmic sensations that engulf his whole body, even though he does not ejaculate. I invariably stopped before I had an orgasm, mostly because I feared I would ejaculate.
I eventually concluded that I was not going to master the type of orgasm described in the literature, and would not achieve the kind of equilibrium of mind and body that I craved, through such a process. After a few days I would either ejaculate inadvertently, or I would do so deliberately, purely in order to release the building tension.
I must say that this was not all in vain. Once I realized that I felt much better if I ejaculated, I decided to incorporate some of the ideas of tantric sex into my daily masturbation – but with ejaculation. What I did, instead of increasing the pace of movement of my hand as I progressed through heightened levels of sensation towards orgasm, was to maintain the same slow, and rhythmic pace – or sometimes even to slow down while approaching orgasm.
Now this is easier said than done, because most of us instinctively increase the pace of masturbation when we approach orgasm.
I somehow realized that the opposite was true – namely that pace-controlled masturbation would be more enjoyable. I had to change my mindset.
During those times that I studied tantric sex I also read about meditation and some oriental philosophies that incorporate it in their rituals. What I came to understand was that meditation was a process whereby active thought, such as we experience in daily life, quietens down, and we start focusing on a smaller and more immediate part of reality. Some people achieve this by focusing on some picture in their minds, or a sound or a letter of the alphabet, or their breathing or heartbeat.
The notion of meditation, together with another thought acted to form a new idea in my mind. That resulted from the realization that I, like most men and women, fantasized during masturbation. The purpose of this for most people is to stimulate themselves sexually through thought. I had been taught by conventional sex literature that this was something to be encouraged as a help in achieving orgasm.
I decided to turn this idea on its head. Through the process of tantric practice that I had followed, I had learnt that one of the ways to postpone ejaculation was deliberately not to think about fantasies. Instead I focused on my penis, and in a manner of speaking “observed” the pleasure that I was experiencing there, for its own sake. Because I had learnt to enjoy the sheer act of masturbation itself – without climaxing or ejaculating – I had no need to fantasize. In fact, I discovered that I was a sexy subject on which to focus. I am not gay – and I am not sexually stimulated by observing men or fantasizing about them. But I am stimulated by my own body, my own penis and my own pleasure. So I found that if I focused as exclusively as I could discipline my mind to, on my own penis and the feelings of pleasure that it provided at any moment in time, I could stimulate myself maximally. I also found that because I was focusing on real pleasure – however slight it was in the beginning stages of masturbation – I felt no need to fantasize. There simply was no rush to reach orgasm. In fact, I had already discovered the enormous pleasure of masturbation without orgasm. The difference was that now I did not mind reaching orgasm, but I did not actively pursue it.
This also made me realize another thing: Previously when I had fantasized, I had pictured a girl or a sex scene in my mind, which represented something that I desired. The problem was, being a fantasy, this thing remained forever elusive. It remained something that I could not have. The involuntary result was that, also as such a fantasy was often very stimulating, one masturbated faster and faster in order to reach orgasm – almost as if chasing the illusive image in your mind. Such a process is fundamentally unfulfilling.
In my view the most important – if not the sole – reason for unhappiness, is craving that which you cannot have, or that which you hope to have tomorrow, and not enjoying what you have now.
It is however possible to masturbate slowly, gently and for a long period of time, while focusing on nothing but the delightful sensations of your penis. This in itself then becomes a ritual of meditation. Like all meditation it is a spiritual exercise that regenerates mind and body.
The point is however that such a method of masturbation – for me – produced the most unbelievable orgasms I had ever had in my life. I ejaculated, but often not as violently and profusely as I used to while practicing the more traditional way of masturbation. But I found that the orgasms that I enjoyed in this fashion were more deeply satisfying than any I had enjoyed masturbating the traditional way.
The best way I can describe such an orgasm is to compare it with a wet dream. Many of us have sweet memories of wet dreams as young boys (which is a bit of a misnomer, as young boys do not ejaculate, and thus do not have “wet” dreams – but you know what I mean).
Because most of us discovered masturbation somewhere in our childhood, as adults we probably no longer need sexual release through dreams. So we have lost the gift of a wet dream. The magic of a wet dream is that it produces orgasm through the sheer buildup of sexual desire and tension, and without any physical manipulation. Now although my way of masturbation does require physical manipulation, it has this in common with a wet dream: One reaches orgasm because the physical manipulation of your penis, combined with your mental focus, means that your sexual tension rises to a point that you ejaculate in the same way as in a wet dream – almost spontaneously.
Because you are not frantically pumping away in order to reach the biggest possible orgasm in the shortest possible time, your body at some point simply begins to orgasm. The result is that it feels much like a wet dream in the sense that the delicious warm feeling that spreads through your lower belly in a way “sneaks up” on you; you have multiple small contractions of your penis and your pelvic area; it feels as if the orgasm simply overflows, because it can no longer wait. The semen is often mixed with pre-cum, because before coming, if masturbating like described here, you will often secrete copious amounts of pre-cum.